I am sharing some photos from our wedding and some thoughts on real issues I struggle with and maybe you can relate. If you aren’t married yet, take notes because I can assure you most marriage relationships will deal with this! NO marriage is perfect no matter how cute it’s portrayed on social media. We all go through seasons…and while you may be in a good season right now, the storms will come. I don’t mean to be cynical when I say that, but that is life. We go through different seasons and I believe the storms strengthen, build character, develop perseverance and integrity inside of us. So, I am not afraid of them but rather hope that I can be stronger and wiser after each one.
If you are anything like me, you are your spouse’s biggest fault finder. I mean sometimes I can just help matt out in sooo many ways because I can just find all of matts faults and sometimes all at once! Any other ladies know what I’m talking about?! I mean, who else is going to help matt with this? I have to be the Holy Spirit!! HAHA! I hope you know I’m only kidding!
My point is, we are not the Holy Spirit and when we have an attitude of constant criticism toward our spouse then that highlights the pride within us. Pride is so dangerous and its in all of us. So how do we break this pride down? I don’t know that there is one specific word or antidote that will cure this but I do believe that to go from pride to humility we can practice a few things.
- Pray for your husband – not that God would change him into who we think he ought to be, but that God would transform our husbands to be more and more like Jesus. Here is something to focus on…Galatians 5:22-23 “But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” Pick one character quality that your husband wishes were more true about himself and pray for him. Instead of making this about how we want him to be, releasing him to God. The one who can truly transform, remember we are not the life changers or the Holy Spirit let’s leave that to God.
- Serve your husband – Next time you go to nag, replace that with serving him. Maybe he has felt weak in a certain area, encourage him. Maybe he values the car being cleaned, clean the car. (I’m just pulling straight from my own life right here).
- Submit to your husband – This is a tough one for me, my personality is naturally dominating and I have to slow it down and reign it in sometimes! 1 Peter 3:1 “In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands.” Again this is something I have to remember each and every day and moment sometimes.